As an entrepreneur, you’ve probably attended at least a couple workshops, conventions, or events where the focus was on how to grow your business. You’ve probably come away, energized to get your business into the stratosphere, get that vision board done, and absolutely rock your business. It worked for about two weeks, and then you were right back to where you started, confused and a little jaded.
The motivation evaporated, poof!
How many times at those events have you heard “start with your why”? It’s a magic little formula that is supposed to give you the motivation, the inspiration to push through the hard, the mundane, the less glamorous parts of owning your own business. It’s supposed to keep you on track and developing. Focus on your kids, your greater purpose, the problems you’re fixing, and make that your why, the reason you do what you do every single day.
You maybe found your why, but still feel like quitting more often than you’re ready to admit. It’s still not enough. Why? (ha!) Your why is broken. Your why will never be enough to keep you going through the valleys and excited for the peaks.
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When I first became aware of this, I was pretty upset at learning all the important things I had set up as my why weren’t ever going to be enough to keep me going, keep me growing, keep me forging ahead. It made me mad!
Now, replace “your why” with “what do you want.” What do you want from this business? What do you want from life? What do you want to accomplish? What do you want to experience? Spend a moment answering those questions, writing them down even, and then come back.
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Here’s why what you want is more powerful than why.
It taps into your emotions and feelings at your core, and isn’t something that is a “should” forced upon your subconscious as a child. We’re taught to be selfless, and especially as women, we’re taught to put our family first. So they become our why because we’re supposed to do this for them. But what happens when you have a disagreement with your spouse, or your child has asked you for the one hundred and fiftieth time for their leftover parade candy while you’re trying to finish dinner/an email/a text to your team? In that moment, there is no way you want to sacrifice anything for them and may even resent them for a moment! There is zero inspiration in that!
Also, when you start with why, you’re inviting in the negative ideas of others about your business venture. Why is your family so important and not the charities in the area? Or why is the charity so important and your family not so much? Why do you want to get involved with this company and not that other one? Why would you even get started with a network marketing or direct sales company? Why would you want to open your own studio? The list goes on and on, and now you start questioning your own decision to start.
As you write down your list of what you want, give yourself permission to be “selfish.” What do you want this business to accomplish for you? Don’t worry, as you succeed, your success spills over onto your family because they’re in your direct sphere of influence. Maybe your want is to hire a housekeeper, maybe it’s so you can fill out every last fundraiser form your kids bring home from school, maybe it’s so you can add onto your kitchen, maybe it’s so you can buy a new car in cash, maybe it’s so you can sponsor a local kids’ sport team. This list is unique to you, and one that will get you excited. It is 100% ok to want things for yourself! As long as your wants don’t infringe on the rights of others, it is not only permissible, it is your god-given right to want all of that!
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Feeling inspired? Excellent!! Revisit, revise, and add to that list every single day. Put it where you can see it frequently and it can trigger your imagination.
Still not too sure? Maybe this will spark something in you.
Think about your toddler, or when your kid was a toddler, or when you were last around a toddler, and remember them at about 2.5 or 3 years old. Remember how insistent they were on getting their wants met? When they wanted to go outside, they wanted to go outside RIGHT NOW and it didn’t matter that it was raining or cold and they had no jacket! The why we gave them (it’s too cold, it’s too wet, you don’t have shoes on, you don’t have your jacket on to protect you) didn’t matter to them one little bit. And heaven help you if you slowed them down trying to get them into all their outdoor gear! You could even ask them why they want to go outside, and they may not have any other reason than they just want it! They may get outside and then realize that yes, the jacket is a good idea, come get it and go back out again. But heaven help you if you didn’t move fast enough to help them get their want! They were so insistent because they were fulfilling their want and the cause and effect of why was beyond their cognitive grasp. In other words, the rational of why couldn’t hinder them in their pursuit of what they wanted.
The universe is like that too. What you want is what you get, and when you can work toward it with the same burning desire of the toddler that wants to go outside, the universe will give you exactly what you want. You may need a few more tools (ie jackets) when you get to where you want to go so you can stay there, but you can always come back inside for the jacket before you go back outside.
What you want is part of your spiritual DNA. It encompasses your purpose and your why, it allows you to grow and become the best version of yourself that you can. And your spiritual DNA is perfect; even the part of you that wants to improve yourself.
I challenge you to start your journey with what you want. Why you want it really isn’t important. It only matters that you want it.
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